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投桃报李
Tóu táo bào lǐ
Natural meaning
You scratch my back, I'll scratch yours.
Literal translation
Throw peach, return plum
What it means
Kindness should be reciprocated with kindness. When someone gives you a gift or does you a favor, you should respond with something of equal value—maintaining balance in relationships.
Cultural context
This comes from the Book of Songs (诗经), one of China's oldest texts. The peach and plum are both common fruits, symbolizing that reciprocity doesn't require extravagance—just genuine response.
When Chinese people say this
Someone might say this when reminding a friend to return a dinner invitation, or when explaining why a business partner who received help should offer assistance in return.
Why Chinese people say this
This saying embodies the Confucian concept of 'li' (礼)—proper conduct in relationships. It signals that social bonds are maintained through balanced exchange, and that gratitude must be expressed through action, not just words.
💬 Real-life example
A:Thanks for covering my shift last week. I owe you one.
B:No problem, but remember to help me out next time I need it.
C:That's the spirit of 投桃报李. Keeping favors balanced strengthens friendships.
Tone
🟢 Reciprocal Harmonious
⚠️ Don't take it literally
It's not about exchanging fruits; it symbolizes mutual kindness and balance.
📖 Story example
After Wang received a generous loan from his neighbor during a financial crunch, he made sure to repay it with interest and offered to babysit her kids. He smiled and said, '投桃报李,' cherishing their equitable bond.
❓ Frequently asked questions
What does 投桃报李 mean in English?
It means 'You scratch my back, I'll scratch yours,' emphasizing the reciprocation of favors and kindness.
When is it appropriate to say 投桃报李?
It's used when reminding someone to return a favor or explaining the importance of balanced social exchanges.
Is 投桃报李 commonly used in modern Chinese?
Yes, it's popular in both personal and business contexts to encourage fairness and mutual support.
What is the English equivalent of 投桃报李?
Similar sayings include 'One good turn deserves another' or 'Quid pro quo,' both about reciprocal actions.
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