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适可而止
shì kě ér zhǐ
Natural meaning
Know when to stop.
Literal translation
Stop when it is appropriate.
What it means
Do not overdo things; know your limits and stop at the right point. It advises moderation in all actions, whether in eating, talking, or working.
Cultural context
Moderation is a core principle in Chinese culture, influenced by Confucianism and the concept of 'zhōngyōng' (the Middle Way). Excess is often seen as a sign of poor character.
When Chinese people say this
Someone might say this when a person keeps bragging about their achievements and makes others uncomfortable.
Why Chinese people say this
This saying serves as a social guideline to maintain balance and avoid offending others. It signals self-awareness and respect for social boundaries.
💬 Real-life example
A:He's been talking about his promotion for an hour. It's getting annoying.
B:I know, right? Someone should tell him to stop.
C:嗯，适可而止比较好。
📖 Story example
At the banquet, Wang Lei kept pouring himself more wine, his speech becoming slurred. His friend leaned over and whispered, '适可而止,' reminding him to drink responsibly. Wang nodded and put the glass down.
❓ Frequently asked questions
What does '适可而止' mean?
It means 'Know when to stop,' advising moderation in actions, speech, or consumption.
When do you use this phrase?
When someone is overindulging, bragging, or pushing limits, to counsel restraint, reflecting a value on balance.
Is it still used in everyday conversation?
Yes, it's a common reminder in social gatherings, work, and personal habits.
What is the English equivalent?
Similar to 'Enough is enough' or 'Don't overdo it.'
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