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娶妻娶贤不娶色

qǔ qī qǔ xián bù qǔ sè
Choose a wife for her virtue, not her beauty.

Take a wife for worthiness, not for looks.

A good wife is one who is virtuous, capable, and kind-hearte...

A good wife is one who is virtuous, capable, and kind-hearted, not merely beautiful. Physical beauty fades, but a person's character endures and shapes the family's well-being.

This saying stems from Confucian values that place moral cultivation above external appearances, especially in the domestic sphere where a wife's role was seen as central to family harmony.

Someone might say this when a young man is infatuated with a beautiful woman who has a difficult personality, reminding him to think long-term.

It serves as a caution against superficial attraction, encouraging men to look beyond the surface and consider the practical, moral qualities that make a marriage stable and happy.

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