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路遥知马力,日久见人心

Lù yáo zhī mǎ lì, rì jiǔ jiàn rén xīn
Time reveals a person's true heart.

A long road tests a horse's strength; a long time reveals a person's heart.

You can't judge someone quickly. Real character shows only a...

You can't judge someone quickly. Real character shows only after time and trials—just as a horse's endurance is proven only on a long journey, a person's sincerity is proven through years of interaction.

This saying is often used in Chinese friendships and business to counsel patience. It reflects a culture that values long-term relationships and distrusts first impressions.

Someone might say this when a new friend seems perfect but an older friend warns, 'Give it time—you'll see who they really are.'

This saying emphasizes patience in judging character, because true intentions only surface over time. It signals that quick judgments are unreliable and that enduring relationships require proof through shared experiences. Chinese people use it to counsel against impulsive trust or distrust, especially in friendships and business dealings.

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