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见人说人话,见鬼说鬼话

jiàn rén shuō rén huà, jiàn guǐ shuō guǐ huà
Speak human words to humans, ghost words to ghosts.

Seeing a person, speak human language; seeing a ghost, speak ghost language.

Adapt your speech and behavior to your audience. It implies ...

Adapt your speech and behavior to your audience. It implies being flexible and strategic in communication, tailoring your words to the person you are dealing with, sometimes with a negative connotation of being insincere.

This saying reflects the Chinese emphasis on situational awareness and social intelligence. It is often used to describe skilled negotiators or diplomats, but can also criticize those who are two-faced.

Someone might say this when a salesperson changes their pitch depending on the customer, or when a person is praised for handling a difficult boss by adjusting their tone.

Chinese society is highly context-sensitive, and effective communication often requires reading the other person's status, mood, and intentions. This saying captures the social skill of adaptability, but also warns of the moral line between flexibility and hypocrisy.

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