When someone makes a mistake, do not embarrass them in public. Instead, wait until you are in private to discuss the issue logically and constructively. This preserves their dignity and makes them more receptive to criticism.
This is a cornerstone of Chinese 'face' culture. Public humiliation is considered deeply harmful to relationships, while private correction is seen as respectful and effective.
This saying teaches the social skill of 'giving face' (给面子). It signals that the goal of criticism is improvement, not punishment, and that maintaining harmony is more important than being right in the moment.
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