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相敬如宾

xiāng jìng rú bīn
To respect each other as if treating a guest.

Mutually respect like guest.

This saying describes an ideal marital relationship where hu...

This saying describes an ideal marital relationship where husband and wife treat each other with the same courtesy, respect, and politeness they would show to an honored guest. It emphasizes mutual esteem and consideration over familiarity or dominance.

This phrase originates from the Confucian classic 'Zuo Zhuan' and has been a standard for marital harmony in Chinese culture for over two thousand years. It reflects the Confucian value of propriety (礼) in all relationships, including the most intimate one.

Someone might say this when praising a couple who maintain a respectful and considerate relationship, or when advising newlyweds to always be polite to each other, even in arguments.

This saying promotes a vision of marriage as a partnership of equals, where respect is the foundation of love. It signals a rejection of possessive or disrespectful behavior in marriage, encouraging couples to maintain a certain formality that prevents contempt.

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