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来而不往非礼也

lái ér bù wǎng fēi lǐ yě
It is impolite not to reciprocate.

Coming but not going is not etiquette.

This saying emphasizes the importance of reciprocity in soci...

This saying emphasizes the importance of reciprocity in social interactions. If someone does something for you, you should return the favor; otherwise, you are violating social norms.

Rooted in Confucian ethics, which stress mutual respect and the maintenance of harmonious relationships through balanced exchanges.

Someone might say this when they feel obligated to return a gift, a favor, or a courtesy to maintain balance in a relationship.

Chinese culture places a high value on reciprocity (礼尚往来) as a way to build and sustain trust. This saying reminds people that failing to reciprocate signals disrespect and can damage social bonds.

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