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穷不走亲，富不回乡

qióng bù zǒu qīn, fù bù huí xiāng

When poor, don't visit relatives; when rich, don't return to your hometown.

Literal translation

Poor don't visit relatives, rich don't return to hometown.

What it means

This saying advises that when you are poor, visiting relativ...

This saying advises that when you are poor, visiting relatives may invite disdain or pity, and when you are rich, returning home may attract jealousy or requests for help. It reflects a pragmatic view of social relationships based on status.

Cultural context

In traditional Chinese society, face (mianzi) is crucial, and both poverty and wealth can create awkward social dynamics. This saying captures the tension between personal pride and social expectations.

When Chinese people say this

Someone might say this when advising a friend not to attend a family gathering while unemployed, or when warning a successful person about the pressures of returning to their village with money.

Why Chinese people say this

Chinese people use this saying to navigate the delicate balance of social relationships and face. It signals an awareness that human nature often reacts poorly to disparity—whether pity for the poor or envy for the rich—and that sometimes distance is the wisest choice.

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