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宁可得罪十个君子,不可得罪一个小人

Níngkě dézuì shí gè jūnzǐ, bùkě dézuì yī gè xiǎorén
Better to offend ten gentlemen than one petty person.

Rather offend ten noble people, cannot offend one small person.

This saying warns that while honorable people are forgiving ...

This saying warns that while honorable people are forgiving and reasonable, petty people are vindictive and will seek revenge in underhanded ways. It advises avoiding conflict with malicious individuals at all costs, even if it means sacrificing relationships with good people.

In Chinese culture, '君子' (jūnzǐ) represents the ideal moral person, while '小人' (xiǎorén) denotes someone selfish and unscrupulous. This dichotomy comes from Confucian philosophy.

Someone might say this when advising a friend to be extra cautious with a difficult colleague or neighbor, even if it means being less direct with other reasonable people.

This saying reflects a pragmatic survival wisdom: good people will understand and forgive, but petty people hold grudges and can cause endless trouble. It signals the importance of strategic conflict avoidance in social navigation.

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