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不共戴天

Bù gòng dài tiān
Sworn enemy; irreconcilable hatred

Not willing to share the same sky

This saying describes an extreme, irreconcilable enmity betw...

This saying describes an extreme, irreconcilable enmity between two parties. It means one would rather die than coexist with the other person. Chinese people use it to express the deepest form of hatred or conflict.

This phrase comes from the Confucian classic 'Book of Rites', where it describes the duty to avenge a parent's murder. It reflects the traditional value of filial piety and the seriousness of blood feuds in ancient China.

Someone might say this when describing a bitter family feud over inheritance, or a betrayal that has permanently destroyed a friendship, to emphasize the impossibility of reconciliation.

This saying serves to mark the absolute boundary of social relationships, signaling that certain offenses are unforgivable. It reflects a cultural understanding that some conflicts transcend normal social repair — a way to legitimize extreme emotional responses and justify permanent severance.

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