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贫贱之交不可忘,糟糠之妻不下堂

pín jiàn zhī jiāo bù kě wàng, zāo kāng zhī qī bù xià táng
Never forget friends made in poverty; never abandon the wife who shared your hardships.

Poverty-humble friendship must not forget, coarse-food wife not leave hall

This saying emphasizes loyalty to those who stood by you dur...

This saying emphasizes loyalty to those who stood by you during difficult times. It warns against discarding old friends or a faithful spouse once you achieve success or wealth.

Rooted in Confucian ethics of loyalty and gratitude. The phrase '糟糠之妻' specifically refers to a wife who endured poverty with her husband, and abandoning her is considered deeply shameful.

Someone might say this when a newly successful person starts ignoring old friends, or when a man considers divorcing his wife after becoming wealthy.

It reinforces the moral duty of gratitude and loyalty, which are core values in Chinese culture. This saying acts as a social check against the arrogance that often accompanies upward mobility.

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