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男大当婚,女大当嫁

nán dà dāng hūn, nǚ dà dāng jià
A man should marry when he comes of age, and a woman should be married when she comes of age.

Man big should marry, woman big should marry

This saying expresses the traditional expectation that it is...

This saying expresses the traditional expectation that it is a natural and social duty for men and women to get married when they reach a certain age. It emphasizes the importance of marriage as a life milestone.

In traditional Chinese society, marriage was essential for continuing the family line and maintaining social order. This expectation is deeply rooted in Confucian values of family and filial piety.

Someone might say this when a family member is over 30 and still single, often as a gentle (or not-so-gentle) nudge to start dating and settle down.

This saying reinforces a social norm and applies pressure on individuals to conform to expected life stages. It signals that marriage is not just a personal choice but a social and familial responsibility.

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