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得饶人处且饶人

dé ráo rén chù qiě ráo rén
Live and let live.

Where you can forgive someone, forgive them.

This saying encourages people to be merciful and not push ot...

This saying encourages people to be merciful and not push others into a corner when they have the upper hand. It teaches that showing forgiveness and restraint is a sign of wisdom and moral strength, not weakness.

Rooted in Confucian ideals of harmony and benevolence, this phrase reflects the traditional Chinese value of avoiding extreme conflict and preserving social peace.

Someone might say this when a friend wants to take revenge on a colleague who made a mistake, advising them to let it go for the sake of harmony.

This saying is used to encourage leniency and forgiveness in social conflicts, especially when you have the upper hand. It signals that holding a grudge or pushing a point too hard damages relationships and reputation. The speaker urges restraint to preserve harmony and avoid unnecessary enemies.

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