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养儿方知父母恩,居高方知屋漏痕

yǎng ér fāng zhī fù mǔ ēn, jū gāo fāng zhī wū lòu hén
You know your parents' love when you raise children; you see the roof's leaks only when you live in the house.

Raise child then know parents' grace, live high then know roof leak marks.

This extended version adds that you only truly understand a ...

This extended version adds that you only truly understand a situation when you are in it yourself. It deepens the first part by saying that personal experience is the only real teacher.

This is a less common but more philosophical version of the previous saying. It combines family wisdom with a broader life lesson about perspective and experience.

Someone might say this when reflecting on how they didn't understand their parents' struggles until they had kids, or when someone finally understands a difficult situation only after going through it themselves.

This saying signals the Chinese cultural belief that wisdom comes from lived experience, not just theory. It encourages humility and gratitude by reminding people that they cannot judge others' burdens until they carry them.

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