True friendship is not based on material gifts, flattery, or constant excitement. It is calm, steady, and pure, like plain water — essential but not flashy.
This phrase is attributed to Zhuangzi, a Daoist philosopher. It contrasts with '小人之交甘若醴' (the friendship of petty people is sweet like wine) — which is exciting but short-lived.
It sets a high standard for friendship — one based on character and mutual respect, not utility or pleasure. It also warns against friendships that are too intense or transactional, which often fade.
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