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君子之交淡如水

jūn zǐ zhī jiāo dàn rú shuǐ
The friendship of gentlemen is as plain as water.

Gentleman's friendship is bland like water.

True friendship is not based on material gifts, flattery, or...

True friendship is not based on material gifts, flattery, or constant excitement. It is calm, steady, and pure, like plain water — essential but not flashy.

This phrase is attributed to Zhuangzi, a Daoist philosopher. It contrasts with '小人之交甘若醴' (the friendship of petty people is sweet like wine) — which is exciting but short-lived.

Someone might say this when explaining why they rarely see their best friend but still trust them completely, or when declining an expensive gift from a friend.

It sets a high standard for friendship — one based on character and mutual respect, not utility or pleasure. It also warns against friendships that are too intense or transactional, which often fade.

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