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骂人不揭短,打人不打脸

Mà rén bù jiē duǎn, dǎ rén bù dǎ liǎn
In a quarrel, don't expose weaknesses; in a fight, don't slap the face.

Scold people [but] do not expose [their] shortcomings; hit people [but] do not hit [their] face.

This is an extended version of the previous saying, adding t...

This is an extended version of the previous saying, adding that physical attacks on the face are especially humiliating. It emphasizes that both verbal and physical conflicts should respect a person's dignity and avoid permanent damage to their reputation or self-respect.

The face (脸) is a powerful symbol of honor in Chinese culture. Striking someone's face is considered the ultimate insult, as it publicly shames them. This saying is a fundamental rule of conflict in Chinese social life.

Someone might say this during a family dispute when one member threatens to reveal another's private mistakes, or when a physical altercation escalates dangerously.

This saying codifies the boundaries of acceptable conflict in Chinese culture. It signals that even enemies should be treated with a baseline of respect, and that going too far will make you lose moral ground and social standing.

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