This means that when someone is already struggling or suffering, you should not criticize, blame, or add pressure with your words. It advises compassion and restraint in speech during others' hard times.
This saying reflects the Confucian value of empathy (恕) and the importance of knowing when to speak and when to stay silent. It is part of broader Chinese etiquette around saving face.
This saying promotes social harmony by reminding people that words can cause deep harm. It signals emotional intelligence and reinforces the cultural value of protecting others' dignity, especially in vulnerable moments.
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