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娶妻莫娶懒惰女

qǔ qī mò qǔ lǎn duò nǚ
Don't marry a lazy woman.

Taking a wife, do not take a lazy woman.

A wife who is lazy will not manage the household well, leadi...

A wife who is lazy will not manage the household well, leading to disorder and hardship for the family. Industriousness is a key virtue in a spouse.

In traditional agrarian Chinese society, a woman's role in managing the home—cooking, cleaning, raising children—was vital to the family's survival and prosperity. Laziness was a serious flaw.

Someone might say this when warning a young man that a woman's beauty or charm cannot compensate for a lack of diligence and domestic skill.

This saying emphasizes the practical, functional role of a wife in traditional society, where her hard work directly contributed to the family's well-being, making laziness an unforgivable trait.

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