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自己人关起门来说

zìjǐ rén guān qǐ mén lái shuō
Speak behind closed doors among our own people.

Own people, close the door and speak.

This saying means that certain criticisms, corrections, or s...

This saying means that certain criticisms, corrections, or sensitive topics should only be discussed privately within the in-group, not in front of outsiders. It emphasizes protecting the group's image while still addressing issues internally.

This reflects the Chinese concept of 'inside vs. outside' (内外有别), where different rules apply to in-group and out-group interactions.

Someone might say this when a manager wants to reprimand an employee but insists on doing it in a private meeting, not in front of the whole team.

Chinese people use this saying to maintain group cohesion and save face, signaling that internal problems should be resolved within the family or team to avoid public embarrassment and preserve collective honor.

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