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死了姑,别了舅,三年老表成陌路

sǐ le gū, bié le jiù, sān nián lǎo biǎo chéng mò lù
Out of sight, out of mind

When aunt dies, uncle departs; after three years, cousins become strangers

This saying observes that family connections often fade afte...

This saying observes that family connections often fade after the linking relatives pass away. It means that without the bridge of shared family gatherings, even close cousins can drift apart over time.

In traditional Chinese extended families, the aunt (father's sister) and uncle (mother's brother) were social hubs for cousin relationships. This reflects the reality that kinship ties are often maintained through elders, not just blood.

Someone might say this when reflecting on how they haven't spoken to their cousins since their grandmother's funeral three years ago.

Chinese people use this saying to acknowledge the practical fragility of family bonds and to gently lament the passage of time. It signals a realistic, unsentimental view of relationships, and can also serve as a prompt to maintain connections before they lapse.

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